When approached about my wellness and motivation services, two of the most frequently asked questions are:
- “What is the difference between coaching and therapy?” and,
- “When do I refer a client for therapy?”
Tears and emotion do not necessarily mean a person needs therapy; it merely means they have feelings. Feelings are a normal and healthy part of being human. As coaches, we bring awareness and curiosity to the emotions of our clients so that they can make better choices and move into action. We are present with our clients in the current expression of their feelings and bring curiosity to that place, whether it’s in our client’s magnificence or the challenging areas of their inner and outer lives. As coaches, we don’t deal with the psychological antecedent to the emotion— that is the realm of therapy. If tearfulness, moodiness, and depression continue over time and do not end, then the coach should bring this to the attention of their client and together explore the need for therapy.
Discovering that there is something that should be addressed by therapy is a positive coaching outcome, and as coaches, we refer clients to therapy when needed. There are many possible scenarios in this situation— one is that the coach holds the client accountable to finding a therapist and completes the coaching. Another is that the coach, client, and therapist design an alliance whereby the coaching continues and the client works with a therapist at the same time.
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WHAT ARE WELLNESS AND MOTIVATION SERVICES?
Each person has different issues and goals when they come to me for wellness and motivation services. Therefore, the process will be different depending on the individual. In general, you can expect:
- To discuss the current events happening in your life
- A conversation about your personal history relevant to your issue
- To report progress (or any new insights gained) from the previous session
Depending on your specific needs, wellness and motivation services can be short-term, to overcome a particular issue; or longer-term, to deal with more difficult patterns or your desire for more personal development. Either way, it is most common to schedule regular sessions with your provider (usually weekly).
It is essential to understand; the best results occur when the client actively participates in the process. The ultimate purpose of wellness and motivation services is to bring what you learn in session back into your life. Therefore, beyond the work done in a session, you might be asked to do some outside work to support your process. These things might include:
- Reading a pertinent book
- Journaling on specific topics
- Noting particular behaviors
- Taking action on your goals
People seeking wellness and motivation services are ready to make positive changes in their lives. Further, they should be open to new perspectives and take responsibility for their lives.